PLAY : For fun

by lorikoop

in Play

Create something special . . .

After you buy a red car, isn’t it funny how many red cars you suddenly see on the road? Since starting PLAY, the subject keeps coming up. Entrepreneurs admit they want to play more… but they are also believing “there’s no time.”

Wait a minute! But we’re the bosses. As entrepreneurs, we make the decisions. So how come we can’t have what we want?

“Work” happens when our job becomes more about the money and less about the passion and the people we help. When we have to muster the energy to repeatedly do tasks we no longer feel inspired to do; when fear prevents us from trying new things. Over time, this kind of activity leaves us empty and exhausted. We feel trapped and depressed… not playful.

Yes, this is work, and it’s painful… especially when you’re the boss!

Play, on the other hand, comes from a place of peace. It happens when we are connected to our truest self, and know that what we’re doing is what we’re here to do. When our actions are aligned with our spirit, they feel effortless. They feel like play. And we feel a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose. Instead of feeling exhausted, we feel energized!

To play more, you need only decide to let your spirit lead. Decide to trust that still, small voice within. It is The Real You, and it was born to play.


PLAY : Risk

by lorikoop

in Play

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When children play, they are motivated by pure curiosity. They intuitively question… naturally, innately. Then set out to find the answers. Why? Because it’s fun.

Then, over the years, things change. We tell ourselves a different story: a story of fear and worse case scenarios. We don’t experiment like we used to. We see the consequences — well, the bad ones. There are good consequences, but our mind focuses on the bad ones. And thus, we begin to limit our choices. Narrow our opportunities.

Play requires an attitude of allowance, and openness to possibilities — to risk for the good outcomes. For essentially the same growth outcomes we experienced as kids. When we start listening again to our true self, we resume “inspired action.” Action that is suggested by our spirit. And is supported by that “gut feeling.”

Questions arrive, such as, “wonder what would happen if I advertised on Yelp?” That thought came to me recently, and my whole body lit up. Because my body reacted that way, I knew my spirit was saying, “do it!” So, I did. I signed up for a year. Due to my body, not my logical mind. Logic was saying, “are you crazy?!! There’s no proof.” And wanted to play it safe. Or rather, not play.

Fear will never lead to play. It stops new outcomes and possible incomes. Insanity is described as doing the same thing and expecting different results. If we want something bigger, better, we’re going to have to do some things differently. Things that require us to head straight into the unknown.

Am I scared? Heck yeah. I don’t know if it will pay off. That’s part of play, and why some people don’t. But without play, we lose the fun. And isn’t that why we’re entrepreneurs? I mean, aren’t we really just big kids?!


PLAY : Emerging

by lorikoop

in Play

Create something special . . .

Ahhh! It’s time to emerge. I have missed you! Hope the holidays brought many gifts.

Since we last spoke in October, I have been digging deep into my purpose and who I’m here to serve. It’s an important thing to do as a business owner. Even though my heart is to serve everyone, it is not feasible. To really create something magical, I must focus.

I discovered entrepreneurs are my passion. Those individuals working for themselves either full or part time. Those determined to make a living doing what they love. Those wired to create something great! Thus, TRU has turned into PLAY and will contain tools + tips to inspire their success. It will be delivered every 2 weeks.

For those who are entrepreneurs, I encourage you to resubscribe. I have some fun things up my sleeve. And the flavor of my writing will remain. To stay connected, CLICK HERE. And please forward anyone you know who could benefit.

For those who are not entrepreneurs, I thank you for being a part of my journey. I trust there has been some valuable exchange. And I wish you the very best. If you feel inspired, please stay.

You never know, the bug might get you, too! I have intentionally been transparent. To show you there are no super heroes… just people who work hard. And risk. I haven’t hidden my process, because I’ve wanted you to see… it’s all possible, if you’re willing to play. (And I hope you will.) xo

Follow.the fun!


Create something special . . .

I am borrowing this title from a friend. It just seemed too perfect. (Thanks, T!)

It’s time for me to take a break. Not a “go on vacation” kind of break, but one that will allow me some time to think. Reflect. Dream. And redesign. We desire that sometimes, because that’s what we need. If we listen deep, the guidance is there. When we connect.

My plan is to pause this writing but not close shop. I will continue coaching. And with the new time, I will clarify my message and my methods. For instance, I recently met Betsy Chasse, one of the makers of What the Bleep Do We Know?!, here in LA. I LOVED her story… all the sacrifice it took to make that movie, back in the day, before internet. She graciously agreed to an interview. That SUPER excites me! Because I want to empower and excite YOU to do your work in the world!

My new home page talks about where I’m headed. My plan is to provide inspiration to the dreamers. The go-getters. The non-21 year olds that want to connect with their life’s work and make a difference! When I first started this blog almost 4 years ago, it was called UPWORD, and its purpose was to share my pottery. Things have come a long way!

THANK YOU! Thank you for supporting and believing. Thank you for reading and being a part. For commenting and sharing your stories. I will definitely be in touch. My guess is around January.

God bless.

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Join Me

In the meantime, I will be sharing the shift on Social Media. Any of the red buttons on my home page will allow you to join me there. And I would LOVE that! xo Live
It does matter what we take in.


Create something special . . .

(Mountain Views News, Sierra Madre published Sep 28, 2013)

Many of my clients want to make a career move, but are unsure of what they love to do. They have guessed wrong in the past, and they’re afraid of doing it again. But moving forward requires a decision. So, many are stuck, waiting for “the right answer.”

To help find it, they ask others. They look to the past. They reference culture. Their left brain clicks into high gear — it is determined to find the answer. It looks and looks. (And makes us crazy in the process.) In the end, it doesn’t know… it just has to guess. It can’t know, it does not have access. The answer lies in the right brain, and it lives in the left.

To get to the right brain and your answer, use your body. The spirit uses the body to communicate our tru* path. If you’re stuck, find a quiet, peaceful place and try this:

1. Make a list of the options you’re considering.
2. Take the first one and imagine doing it. Close your eyes. Engage all the senses: sight, sound, touch, taste and smell. See yourself in action and really feel it.
3. On a scale from 1 to 10 (10 being the most excited), score your excitement.
4. Go to the next option. Do steps 2 and 3 again. Don’t worry about why, just stick to the body sensations.
5. Experience each item on the list with your body and score it.

The option that scores the highest is the “winner!” It most aligns with your true self and the work you’re here to do. Start there! I know, it’s not how you’re used to making decisions. It’s a NEW way. Try it, if you’re tired of waiting.


Create something special . . .

Fear is part of EVERY decision. It’s my new hunch.

I had been wanting to rename this newsletter and finally decided on “Reconnect” because it felt so tru. Then I heard the fear: what will others think if you change the name again.

It was there that I saw it, the “safe” choice and the “risky” choice. I could play it safe and not change, OR I could become more tru and change. There was tension. There often is when there’s fear. Even when the risky choice feels so right.

The best way to decide… Reconnect.
To the truth of who I am and why I’m here. To the Truth that is only found in my spirit.

The world will tell me all kinds of scary stories, but the spirit is fearless. It is concerned only with my tru path. And it’s mission is to help me stay on it. If I want to KNOW what to do, I need to go there for wisdom.

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Coming TRU*

When you stay close to your spirit, you too will feel the right decision. In its presence, you will gather confidence and strength. It makes it a lot easier to face the fear. And remain tru.

( * = The Real You)

How.will you play?


Create something special . . .

(Mountain Views News, Sierra Madre published Sep 14, 2013)

My daughter regularly puts these rescue videos under my nose. Hurting dogs living on the streets, and one man’s commitment to save them. They are beautiful stories. Have a look:

When I viewed the newest one yesterday, I was filled with gratitude. The sacrifice. The offering. The impact. THANK YOU, Eldad. For the humanity you call us to. For the compassion you uncover. For the giving heart that expects nothing in return.

And thank YOU for your service. Whether you are volunteering at school or the local animal shelter, making a meal for a neighbor, or giving clothes to Goodwill, giving matters. It changes others, and it heals you.

If you are feeling lost, unneeded, or hopeless, reach out. It’s often the opposite of what you’re inclined to do; depression often leads to isolation, but it doesn’t help. If you can, reach into your heart pull out a part. Give it to someone else, someone less fortunate, and feel it heal back up. Stronger. Bigger. Better. That’s how it works.

Let us all be reminded to make time. To do what we can. To care.

Let us not be satisfied with just giving money. Money is not enough, money can be got, but they need your hearts to love them. So, spread your love everywhere you go.” – Mother Teresa


CLARITY : Belief

by lorikoop

in Clarity

Create something special . . .

There just HAD to be a job out there that I would LOVE! According to my calculations, half my waking hours would be spent “on the job,” and there was no way I was wasting any of it being miserable. We’re supposed to love what we do! That was my belief. And it still is.

Do you love what you do?

If you do, congratulations! You’re doing something that you believe in. And that feels good.

If you don’t, there is hope… if you believe. Do you honestly believe there’s work out there that will give you what you want? It’s a funny thing, whatever you believe, you create. Your beliefs are THAT powerful! They are the lenses through which you see and operate in the world. If it appears possible, you’ll look for the way. If it doesn’t, you won’t even try.

So, before you begin to reinvent your career, find the love of your life, or buy your first home, work on your belief. Make sure you believe it’s possible whole-heartedly. It’s your ticket. Without it, you can’t get on board.

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Coming TRU*

What if you want to believe, but you don’t?

For example, I want to become a strong public speaker, but I have the belief “I’m not good enough to speak in public.” With that belief, I will run in the opposite direction. I don’t want to embarrass myself. By doing that, I will not become a strong speaker, because it comes with practice. Do you see I created that with my belief?

To create a new belief, I have to think different thoughts. A thought that could help me is “I can learn to public speak.” When I think that, I’ll look for opportunities to practice. I’ll volunteer to speak. And every time I do, I’ll find evidence (if I’m looking) that it’s true… I CAN learn, because I am. With adequate evidence, the brain naturally replaces the old belief with the new one.

Align your thoughts with what you want to create. And you will!


Create something special . . .

(Mountain Views News, Sierra Madre published Aug 24, 2013)

Organizing is what you do before you do something, so that when you do it, it is not all mixed up.” – A. A. Milne

Imagine arriving in a foreign country without a written plan or map. Where would you go? What would you do? You’d certainly waste a lot of time wandering around, trying to make sense of things and find your way. And chances are good that you would run out of time before you got to see all the things you really came to see.

An itinerary requires upfront work, but it streamlines the effort when you arrive so that you can get to see everything. That’s why you came, right?!! It gives focus to the limited time you have. And identifies clearly the steps you will take to get to your destinations.

Many people start their businesses with little more than an impassioned idea and the determination to “make it work.” With the internet, it’s easy to jump in — anyone can do it. Personally, I LOVE that! But just because you can be in business doesn’t mean you know how to do business. After a few wrong turns and miscalculations, it’s obvious how easy it is to waste time.

A business plan is like an itinerary: it gives clear and organized information about where you want to go, and the steps you plan to take to get there. It considers carefully the best, most efficient use of your time. It maps out how your big vision will become a reality and provides clear directions.

There are many ways to create a business plan. Just google “business plan.” Find the method that speaks to you. The key is to DO IT! Not just wish for it. Decide where you will go and what you will do. Put it in writing so you don’t forget. Or get lost.

For the sake of your business, make a plan… a plan to succeed!

P.S. For those who cringe at the dry, traditional methods, there is another way. I teach a visual approach called the Right Brain Business Plan. It invites the imaginative, right brain into the process. You create a VISUAL MAP with words and pictures.


Create something special . . .

(Mountain Views News, Sierra Madre published Aug 17, 2013)

Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these you can handle anything.” – Jack Kornfield

Life is full of transitions: just as there are seasons in nature, there are seasons in life. They occur whether we want them to, or not….

. My sister’s youngest leaves for college.
. A friend loses a 25 year work routine.
. The kids return to school.

Some transitions are harder than others, but they all ask us to change. They require us to shift the way we see ourselves and our identity. This is known as “Square 1”… Death and Rebirth in the Cycle of Change. No, it’s usually not easy. As a matter of fact, it’s the place where most people seek Life Coach support.

When a caterpillar begins its transformation into a butterfly, it doesn’t just grow wings. It creates a cocoon around itself and, within, turns to goo. It completely melts down into liquid form and then reforms as a butterfly. Our process is similar. The old self turns to goo. But the DNA is still there. In time, the new self emerges just as miraculously. And beautifully.

Here are some keys to managing “Square 1” transitions:

Recognize you are in transition and cut yourself some slack. Hang low. Allow yourself time to grieve. To feel the feelings of loss. To cocoon and reflect. Listen to your body. You may require more sleep, have less “doing” energy, and feel “emotional.” This is all normal. Be compassionate and patient with yourself. Don’t make any major decisions. Your new self is forming, and it requires time and self-care.

Grieve, but don’t get stuck in your story — that will only prolong the trip. Work through your feelings, investigate beliefs, and don’t fight it! Allow the new You to emerge when the time is right. It will happen organically as you flow with the process.

Hang in there. The rewards are big. You are becoming a better You! Stronger. Deeper. Wiser. And on the other side, you will see more clearly.